| Have you ever tried to control how much sex to have or how often you would see someone? |
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| Do you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that seeing this person is destructive to you? |
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| Do you feel that you don’t want anyone to know about your sexual activities?/td>
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| Do you get ‘high’ from sex? Do you crash? |
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| Have you ever had sex at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and/or with inappropriate people? |
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| Do you make promises to yourself or rules for yourself concerning your sexual behaviour that you find you cannot follow? |
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| Have you had or do you have sex with someone you don’t (didn’t) want to have sex with? |
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| Do you believe that sex will make your life bearable? |
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| Have you ever felt that you had to have sex? |
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| Do you believe that being sexual with someone can ‘fix’ you? |
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| Do you keep a list, written or otherwise, of the number of partners you’ve had? |
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| Do you feel desperation or uneasiness when you are away from your sexual partner? |
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| Have you lost count of the number of sexual partners you’ve had? |
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| Do you feel desperate about your need for a sexual fix? |
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| Have you or do you have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g. the threat of being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS etc)? |
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| Do you find that you have a pattern of repeating bad sexual relationships? |
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| Do you feel that your only (or major) value in a relationship is your ability to perform sexually? |
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| Do you feel like a lifeless puppet unless there is someone around with whom you can flirt? Do you feel that you’re not ‘really alive’ unless you are with your sexual partner? |
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| Do you feel entitled to sex? |
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| Do you find yourself in a sexual relationship that you cannot leave? |
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| Have you ever threatened your financial stability or standing in the community by pursuing a sexual partner? |
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| Do you believe that the problems in your ‘love life’ result from not having enough of, or the right kind of sex. |
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| Have you ever had a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside sexual activity?/td>
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| Do you feel that life would have no meaning without sex? Do you feel that you would have no identity if you were not someone’s partner? |
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| Do you find yourself flirting or sexualising with someone even if you do not mean to? |
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| Does your sexual behaviour affect your reputation? |
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| Do you have sex to try to deal with or escape from life’s problems? |
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| Do you feel uncomfortable about your masturbation because of the frequency with which you masturbate, the fantasies you engage in, the props you use, and/or the places in which you do it? |
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| Do you engage in the practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, etc, in ways that bring discomfort and pain? |
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| Do you find yourself needing greater and greater variety and energy in your sexual activities just to achieve an ‘acceptable’ level of physical and emotional relief? |
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| Do you need to have sex, in order to feel like a ‘real man’ or a ‘real woman’? |
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| Do you feel that your sexual behaviour is about as rewarding as hijacking a revolving door? Are you jaded? |
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| Are you unable to concentrate on other areas of you life because of thoughts or feelings you are having about sex? |
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| Do you find yourself obsessing about a specific sexual act even though these thoughts bring pain, craving or discomfort? |
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| Have you ever wished you could stop or control your sexual activities for a given period of time? Have you ever wished you could be less emotionally dependent? |
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| Do you find the pain in your life increasing no matter what you do? Are you afraid that deep down you are acceptable? |
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| Do you feel that you lack dignity and wholeness? |
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| Do you feel that your sexual life effects your spiritual life in a negative way? |
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| Do you feel that your life is unmanageable because of your sexual behaviour or your excessive dependency needs? |
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| Have you ever thought that there might be more you could do with your life if you were not so driven by sexual pursuits? |
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| Have you denied yourself a sexual relationship? |
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| Do you feel fearful of sexual relationships? |
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