Self Assessment: Fear of Intimacy

Love Avoidance describes a dysfunctional relationship pattern that some of us repeatedly find ourselves falling into. It describes a pattern in which we find ourselves avoiding real emotional intimacy with our partners through a number of behaviours.

For those of us in a love avoidance or codependency cycle, it can sometimes be extremely difficult to see or admit that there is a problem, especially because these issues can be entangled with intimacy, love, fear and shame.

If you’ve experienced toxic relationships, feel suffocated by your relationship, or have friends and family who have raised concerns about your relationships, this self-assessment may raise some important insights for you.

As you read each of the following statements, take your time to think about the answer before selecting the response which feels right. Only you will see the results of this test, so take this as an opportunity to be completely honest with yourself. Be aware that attempts to minimise or deny behaviours or consequences, even to yourself, may be a symptom of dysfunction.

You do not need to give us any details to take this assessment or to see your results. If you would like a copy sent to you, you can ask for that at the end.

If you'd like to speak with someone after completing the assessment, our intake team is available for a free, private and confidential conversation. Send us a message and we'll be in touch at a time that suits you, or call 02 9129 1227 during business hours.

Your responses are confidential and are saved without your name or contact details. When your results are calculated, your answers to the individual questions are recorded against this assessment and used in de-identified form for research and to improve these assessments.

If you ask us to email a copy of your results, we use your answers to produce the results we send you, and we update your assessment record with your age, gender and postcode. Your email address is not added to our mailing list unless you also opt in to receive occasional information and resources from South Pacific Private by email. You can unsubscribe at any time.