Self-Assessment: Love Avoidance

This self-assessment is designed to help you identify key indicators of love avoidance and codependency and raise awareness about negative, escalatory or cyclical patterns. It is not intended as a clinical diagnostic tool.

Do I have a Problem with Love Avoidance?

Love Avoidance describes a dysfunctional relationship pattern that some of us repeatedly find ourselves falling into. It describes a pattern in which we find ourselves avoiding real emotional intimacy with our partners through a number of behaviours.

For those of us in a love avoidance or codependency cycle, it can sometimes be extremely difficult to see or admit that there is a problem, especially because these issues can be entangled with intimacy, love, fear and shame.

If you’ve experienced toxic relationships, feel suffocated by your relationship, or have friends and family who have raised concerns about your relationships, this self-assessment may raise some important insights for you.

As you read each of the following statements, take your time to think about the answer before selecting the response which feels right. Only you will see the results of this test, so take this as an opportunity to be completely honest with yourself. Be aware that attempts to minimise or deny behaviours or consequences, even to yourself, may be a symptom of dysfunction.

If you’d rather undertake a free, confidential, tailored assessment over the phone — or would like to discuss your results — our team is available seven days a week on 1800 063 332 or contact us here.

All responses are protected by patient confidentiality. Your answers to individual questions will not be stored or saved.

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The goal of our self-tests is not to provide you with a diagnosis for yourself or for someone you care about. Instead, they are an opportunity for you to better understand how a behaviour might be impacting upon your life or the life of your family. Use these tests to enhance your awareness of what the problem might be.

These tests should be answered honestly in order to provide accurate insight and are a chance for you to reflect upon the current situation.

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